It was a year ago at this time, the day before Thanksgiving, that my husband came home and announced that he had lost his job. Yeah, his old boss does not get any points for being diplomatic enough to at least wait until after a major holiday known for family togetherness to dump bad news on us.
I have always been thankful for my husband and marriage, but this day I am especially thankful. A year later after DH losing his job, our marriage has improved because of that very trial. So I’m grateful for the trial of job loss as well. It wasn’t easy to go through 8 months of unemployment and underemployment, but it was for the best. He didn’t like his old boss. It’s so nice now that he doesn’t ever have to deal with him again! Who would have thought a year ago when DH lost the job, that a year later we would be back in Utah, with a better job that pays a lot more, with a boss he likes? Who would have thought that we would be back living within a 30 minute drive of so many old friends, especially homeschooling friends, two adult sons, and extended family? It’s all because we worked as a team to figure out where God wanted us to go next and what God wanted us to do. I’m so grateful for my husband for being patient, prayerful, and determined to keep looking and applying for jobs. I’m also so grateful that we followed the Dave Ramsey Baby Steps while living in AZ for five years. Because we followed the steps, we were prepared when the job loss hit. We were out of debt and we had a three months’ supply of money saved up to deal with our normal monthly expenses. So thank you Dave as well!
I have benefited from wisdom people have shared with me over the years about building marriage. Most of it has come through books, and from God, through the Holy Spirit. I highly recommend these tips from my wise girlfriend Joyce, her 7 Keys to Marital Bliss. Thank you Joyce for sharing these!
You may wonder why I posted summer flowers at the top instead of something fallish or related to Thanksgiving. The picture at the top is from our yard in Arizona. Those flowers would come back in late summer, at the time of our wedding anniversary in August, if we took care of them by watering. The picture is a reminder to me of the importance of nurturing marriage in good times and bad.